Wives, I Implore You: Date Your Husband

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By Dakota Burgess

I am one of those lucky women that can say her marriage is thriving, but it wasn’t always this way. I was 16 when my husband and I got together. I was young and head over heels in love, so when he proposed on Christmas Eve just after I turned 17, of course I said yes. A month later, we found out we were having a baby. All I’d ever wanted was to be a mama, and he afforded me that gift. When I was 18, we got married as a family of three. Our son was 8 months old at our wedding.

Through the years, we were “forced to grow up.” We knew what we were doing when we decided to have a baby and get married so young, but what we didn’t realize was the toll it takes on a relationship. Especially a relationship where we didn’t really get to know each other. We knew we loved each other and we were in it for the long haul, but I couldn’t have really told you what his hopes, dreams, and goals were. I don’t think I even really knew mine, except that they included him. Continue reading

5 Easy Ways To Declutter Your Home This Weekend

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By Becky Houdesheldt

After moving twice in 2 years, simplification is something I value more than I ever thought I would. Considering we’ve added an infant to our household, making room for his many toys, jumpers, mats and swings became a high priority for us. However, the introduction of a tiny human isn’t the only reason to declutter. Maybe home isn’t a place where you can feel relaxed. Maybe it’s full of memories of times better left in the past. Maybe it’s just become so crammed with things you love that it’s overwhelming to know where to start. Here’s my experience: Continue reading

10 Times Michelle Tanner Was All Of Us

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By Kate Kole

I have no shame in admitting my love for Full House. And I don’t just mean that I enjoyed watching it as a kid. I’m as happy to hang out with the Tanneritos today as I was 20 years ago. Like any true fan, I’ve also seen every episode of Fuller House and may or may not be cueing up Netflix for the Season 3 premiere tomorrow.

We’re now late enough into the game that I’ve come to accept that Michelle probably won’t be making any Fuller House appearances, yet her legacy surely lives on.

Allow these 10 gifs to remind us of the fact that Munchkin really is all of us: Continue reading

Letting Go Of The Need To Be Liked And Loving Myself Instead

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By Becky Houdesheldt

First, let me say that it is not difficult to get me fired up about something, especially if I’m passionate about it. Here’s an example. Once, when my brand-new hand mixer broke after 2 uses, I went on a tirade about how my parents have had the same hand mixers since I was old enough to know what they were, and they’ve never had an issue, and how things aren’t made the way they used to be. Yep. I did.

Sometimes I’d get caught up before I had a chance to realize what I was doing, and then profusely apologize. It’s not in my nature to upset the apple cart, as they say. Often, I’d rather just be quiet and let everyone get along rather than speak my truth. The older I’ve gotten and the longer I’ve been sober, the more I recognize that fear has a way of dominating my life. When I am in fear, I make decisions that compromise my core values because I’m unwilling to deal with the potential unknown outcome. Continue reading

10 Tips To Nail Your Next Job Interview

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By Becky Houdesheldt

I’ve been with the same company for 9 and ½ years and am on my 4th position. In that time I’ve applied for lots of positions within the company, not to mention the myriad of positions I submitted for prior to my career here. I’ve nailed some job interviews and I’ve bombed twice as many. I’ve learned that there are definite things you should and should not do. Learn from my many mistakes.

Present your best physical self. Don’t go in tired, or hungover. Don’t go in looking like you rolled out of bed, especially if that is exactly what happened. Take a shower. Style that hair. Wear deodorant and brush your teeth. This sounds like basic information, but trust me. It warrants being said, and it’s first for a reason. First impressions are a real thing. Continue reading

Donald Trump Is A Human Garbage Fire & You’re Worried About Hillary’s Book?

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By Jillian Stacia

I’ve tried to play nice.

I’ve spent the past ten months coming at this with an open mind and a forgiving heart. I’ve prayed all the prayers and asked for surrender and guidance. I’ve tried to let it go and move forward as best I can.

But in this case, I just can’t. As in, I literally cannot handle people talking about how “selfish” and “horrible” and “divisive” Hillary Clinton’s new book is.

You know what is selfish and horrible and divisive? The president supporting Nazis in the United States. Getting in a pissing match with North Korea. Ending DACA. Denouncing global warming. Continue reading

Self-Care Isn’t Just Nice, It’s Necessary

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By Becky Houdesheldt

I honestly don’t care what it’s called. Me-time, down-time, alone-time, self-care, leave me the hell alone and let me do my thing time…the end goal is always the same. To recharge. To have my cup refilled. To feel refreshed and capable. To remind myself that I am, and always will be, an individual.

My fiancé, Andrew, and I are getting married in just over 2 weeks, and it has been a mad dash to get wedding plans confirmed. I was looking at scripts for the officiant, and a few things completely rubbed me the wrong way. One big one was the verbiage I kept finding for the unity ceremony. It all implied that the individuals ceased to be after the wedding ceremony, and only one couple remained.

I vehemently disagree. Here’s why. Continue reading

A Reminder For When You’re Feeling Lost

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By Kate Kole

My first job out of college was working as a photographer assistant for a school portrait business. Our team of photographers and photographer assistants drove across our Iowa and Illinois region to take yearbook photos. In order to get to schools on the other side of the state before the day started, we regularly had to leave our office well before dawn. On one of our 3:30 a.m. wake-up call mornings, the photographer and I got lost. This was pre-cell phone apps and car GPS systems, so our earliest sign that we’d missed our exit wasn’t thanks to Alexa telling us to make our next legal U-turn, but instead was courtesy of a “Welcome to Missouri” billboard.

Luckily, the state trooper who pulled us over for driving well beyond the speed limit was kind enough to give us directions to where we were going (along with a hefty ticket). And miraculously, we weren’t far away. In our frazzled high-speed chase to capture middle school glamour shots, we’d simply overlooked our exit. Within minutes, we were back on the road and even made it to the school on time to take pictures. All’s well that ends well, I suppose. Continue reading

Stop Telling Me That ‘Breast Is Best’

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By Becky Houdesheldt

I had my first child 6 months ago and no one told me about the secret society of breastfeeding mothers that would shun me if I didn’t breastfeed my child.

Here’s the deal: When I found out I was pregnant, I had no doubt we’d breastfeed. I didn’t save any formula coupons, didn’t even know the difference between brands and types. I bought all the appropriate breastfeeding accessories (who knew there were so many) and had visions of happily feeding my sweet baby boy for at least the first 3 months of his life, thanks to an amazing maternity leave program with my work. I didn’t know a thing about bottle nipples or bottle cleaning, and I didn’t think I needed to. It seemed like a no-brainer to me. Why wouldn’t I breastfeed? Continue reading

When You Feel Like Running Away, Do This Instead

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By Kate Kole

I ran away more than once as a kid. And by ‘ran away’ I mean I packed my bookbag with all the essentials for a one-night’s stay at a friend’s house, headed out the front door, walked half a block down the street, and remembered no friend had actually invited me to come sleep over, at which point I sheepishly began my journey back home to sit underneath the tree in our front yard. Until of course, I got hungry, cold, bored, or needed to use the restroom, eventually waving the white flag and going inside. As the youngest of 3 kids, I’m not sure my parents even noticed my half hour absences.

Sometimes that childhood fantasy of running away sneaks up again. Not in a ‘create a new identity and never look back’ Jason Bourne kind of way. Just in a stressed out, don’t know what to do next, wouldn’t it be nice to go live in a beach house and eat donuts in bed sort of sense. Continue reading