On Finding Confidence (From Sources Other Than Wine)


This whole ‘not a girl, not yet a woman‘ phase of life can feel intimidating at times. While we know that according to our bills, bottles of wine, and voter registration forms, we’ve technically crossed into ‘adulting‘ territory, our first 10 years out of college feel like a category all their own as we venture into uncharted waters.

While it’s natural to lose our mojo at times, second guessing our worthiness and wondering if someone else could fill the job, role, or part better than we can, we also know how equipped we are to create and own the life we envision. But first, coffee confidence.

Here are some of our go-to practices for finding extra courage (when drinking 2 glasses of wine isn’t an option):

Think about the people who love you unconditionally. Before walking into an interview or audition, we calm our nerves by focusing on the family members and friends who love us regardless of outcomes. Something as simple (and perhaps, cheesy) as “new job or not, my mom still loves me” helps to put things in perspective.

Create an inspiring playlist. We crank up the volume, and if we’re feeling extra wild, we might even roll the windows down. Then we belt out ‘Roar‘, ‘Fight Song‘, or TBH, pretty much anything by T. Swift, and make it an all out karaoke style duet. There’s something liberating and exhilarating about a solo jam session.

Embrace the feeling. The adrenaline that accompanies stepping out of our comfort zone and trying something new for the first time is a reminder that we’re alive. Intimidating as the thought of failure is, having never tried and always wondered “what if” feels worse.

Work out the nerves. Literally. We head out on a run or hit up a hot yoga class to sweat out some of the stress prior to tackling an intimidating task. Focusing on movement and the connection between body, mind, and breath helps us to feel centered.

Keep in mind how you’ll unwind. Whether it’s a bubble bath, takeout from our favorite restaurant, or a phone call with our best friend – knowing something familiar and restorative awaits on the other side can bring an extra bit of ease and encouragement before a big event. 

Believe in yourself. Cliché as it may sound, we often pose the biggest obstacle to our own success. Find an inspirational quote, verse, mantra, or prayer that empowers you.

You’ve got this.

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