Be A Good One

We’ve been conversing about women in sports, in the workplace, and at home for years and by now, we’ve all heard, read, seen, and experienced the multifaceted sides of the battle for both personal and professional success. 

Can a woman strive for and attain success as a soccer mom, a supportive wife, and a career woman? All three, all the time, at once?

Frankly, we’re exhausted by the question. Not only because it’s loaded by nature and the answer is more complex than a simple yes or no. But more so, because it’s furthering gender stereotypes and discrepancies.

If we have daughters, we’re not going to tell them that they’re just as smart as the boys, or that they can be good at math and science “too.” We won’t encourage them to be as fast as the guys are when running the mile or cheer that they can kick the ball just as far. We won’t promise them that they’ll someday perfect the working mom / life balance, if they so desire.

Instead, we’ll borrow Abraham Lincoln’s quote, and advise them, “whatever you are, be a good one.” Period. Not as good as a boy, or better than other girls, but simply a good human. And if we have boys, we’ll do the same.

Furthermore, when you add the component of gender identity into the conversation, this whole comparison act takes on an entirely new level.

Perhaps the most inspiring message we can offer the next generation of boys, girls, men and women alike is that they, regardless of gender, race, or socioeconomic status, can be ‘good ones’. in whatever they decide to do.

If someone finds a cure for cancer will it matter if the person is male or female? Is it significant whether the doctor who successfully delivers our baby is a man or woman? Does gender really have to dictate or even play a contributing role in how our greatest achievements are marked?

By expanding the conversation and encouraging people the opportunity to authentically express who they are, we can celebrate the collective victories of humanity – men and women alike.

Whoever you choose to be, be a good one.

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One thought on “Be A Good One

  1. Rach says:

    Love this! You’ve hit the nail on its eloquent head. This says so much in so few words, which is so hard to do.


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