This One’s For You

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By Jillian Stacia

How is your day going? What does your heart feel like? Are you heavy? Light? Floating? Grinding? What does life look like for you, and how are you carrying the weight of it?

I don’t know if anyone has told you recently, but you’re doing a great job. Maybe it’s the millennial in me, but I think we all deserve some recognition from time to time. Just getting out of bed these days can be an accomplishment. Look at all you’ve done. Look at all you’ve achieved. Take a second and breathe. You’re doing a great job.

I hope you know that you’re not alone. I hope you remember that isolation is in your mind, that you’re not really all that special, in the best possible way. We are all singing different cover versions of the same old song. Everyone has tasted isolation and despair and sadness and shame, and there is nothing that you’ve done or haven’t done that could make you any different. You are never alone, even when it feels like you are. You are never isolated, even if you can’t see anyone beside you. There are eons of people who felt this way yesterday and legions of people who will feel this way tomorrow. And so it goes.

I want to tell you to keep going. I want to tell you to dust yourself off and move forward. Even if you have to crawl. Just keep heading in the right direction. When you finally arrive, you will realize that it’s the journey that made you. It’s the stops along the way that made the difference.

Life is ridiculous, but I’m sure you know that already. You’ve seen sunrises and babies and puppies frolicking in fields and the way a sunflower opens up in the middle of summer. You’ve read Austen and listened to Beethoven and danced in the rain. And you’ve gotten flat tires and ran out of money and gotten fired from jobs and broken someone’s heart. You’ve spent hours laying in fields wondering when things were going to start making sense. You’ve laughed till your belly ached.

Don’t stop chasing the magic, even if you realize it might be fleeting. Don’t let yourself become too weighed down by the responsibilities. Responsibilities are just in your mind. Reframe them to be choices. You’re handling them because that’s what you do – you handle things. You can do this. You’ve done it before. Just don’t lose track of the sunrises, okay? Don’t forget to listen to Beethoven.

Think about the people you love and ask yourself how you can serve them. Love is an action, not a feeling. If you’re feeling stuck or tired or worn down to the bone, see what you can do to raise someone up. Serve and you will be served. Love and you will be loved.

I don’t know what your plans are, but I know you’re going places. I know you’re headed towards greatness. There is a destination with your name on it. You will get there. Keep moving forward. Patience. Focus. Moderation. Those words don’t make a splash, but they will get you where you want to go. They will get you to a place worth knowing.

I hope you remember to put down roots in your own heart. You belong to yourself first and foremost. Do not turn your back on your own reflection. Do not sell yourself short. Show up each day. Delight in yourself. You are worth celebrating.

Stop wondering what you should do with your life and just go out there and live it. Stop wasting time trying to craft the perfect plan and start getting your hands dirty. Feel your way through. Experience molds and shapes better than spreadsheets ever could. Remember that life is meant to be lived and not managed. You can’t control the things inside of you that are desperate to grow.

If it helps, I’m proud of you. I’m proud that you got up this morning and read this article. I’m proud that you are here and breathing and living. Thank you for participating. Thank you for showing up.

If you’re having a bad day, keep going. If you’re having a great day, keep going. It’ll be over soon. Nothing is permanent. This too shall pass. Right foot. Left foot. Breathe.


Jillian is part of the Contributing Writer Network at Thirty on Tap. To apply to become a Contributing Writer, please click HERE.

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