Being a twenty-something is both an exhilarating and terrifying experience. You’ve entered the world of adulthood, gained your independence, and are trying to find your way in a complex world. Expectations are high. Pressure mounts the closer you get to the big three-oh. What are you doing with your life? When are you going to settle down? The questions are endless.
But the reality is that there just are certain things that you may not be able to accomplish before you’re 30. Society has changed. What your Baby Boomer parents may have been able to accomplish when they were in their 20s doesn’t necessarily apply to you. Don’t panic! You’re still young and have your whole life ahead of you. So, if you don’t accomplish these 4 things now, you will be able to accomplish them sometime in the future with the right attitude and perseverance.
Trying to balance your personal budget at the end of each month may leave you wanting to tear out your hair. It seems like money passes through your fingers like water. Why didn’t they tell you that being adult would be so hard? Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and calm down. You may not realistically amass a load of cash and experience financial security before your thirties. You have to pay your dues and rise up the ladder. Focus on building your career and running in your own lane.
Owning Your Own Business
Business experts, life coaches, and experts in the personal development niche tend to encourage people to transform their passions into businesses. It’s a wonderful idea. It really is. The problem is that you need a business idea that sells in order to succeed. Therefore, it is no surprise that there has been a 65 percent decrease in the number of people under 30 who own their own businesses, as cited in an article in The Atlantic. So, don’t rush to start your own business because you feel like you’re being left behind. Wait until you have a truly viable business idea and be smart about how you’ll make your business grow.
Some people start planning their dream wedding as little kids, and those dreams and the idea of a fairytale romance might have enticed you to desire marriage before your 25th birthday. But honestly? That may not happen. In fact, Nicholas H. Wolfinger, a psychologist at the University of Utah, states that the best time to get married is between the ages of 28 and 32. Divorce rate increases by 5 percent each year after 32. However, you don’t have to be a statistic. The point is to find someone who can be your partner for life. Marriage shouldn’t be rushed because you think you’re on a timeline. Take your time and ensure that you’re making the right choice.
Owning a Home
Home ownership is a life goal that people are often encouraged to aspire towards. A home is deemed a good long-term financial investment to the average person. In theory, it can be a good investment if the property is purchased in the right area. However, the financial meltdown in 2008 proved the unpredictability of real estate as an investment opportunity. House prices either became stagnant or declined and people couldn’t sell their homes. In an article entitled Homeownership Rates by Age Group, Joshua M. Brown cited a table from the Census Burea that shows that there “are more homeowners over the age of 75 than in their 20s and 30s combined.” Focus on making good investment decisions that will reap long-term benefits. Homeownership can take a back seat until the time is right.
The bottom line is that you may not have your whole life figured out before you turn 30. The lack of control and security can create anxiety, but take comfort in the fact that you have your whole life ahead of you. Keep your goals in sight and work towards them. Focus more on allowing things to happen at the right time instead of forcing things to happen within your timeline.
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