Stop Apologizing For Being Yourself

Stop Apologizing For Being Yourself

By Kate Kole

I’m a crier. I cry when I’m laughing, scared, frustrated and sad. I cry over good news, and bad news, and the news on TV. I even cry when I see the 2-minute preview for the upcoming episode of This Is Us. I used to habitually fight back my emotions and I think my body is still making up for lost time.

It’s often during Subaru commercials that move me to tears, or, when I’m reading an article aloud to my husband and start to feel the waterworks welling up, that I find myself apologizing. I excuse my emotions as hormonal, or due to the fact that I’m tired, or simply because I’m just too sensitive. I sheepishly acknowledge that something must be wrong with me, because I simply feel things too deeply. Continue reading

Choosing Presence Instead Of Comparison

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By Becky Houdesheldt

This morning, as my son was entertaining himself in the living room while I made a quick cup of coffee, I thought to myself, maybe he’s behind. Maybe he’s not being challenged enough at home. My friends who have babies around the same age are crawling, or sitting without any assistance at all, or making clearly articulated sounds. Maybe I’m doing something wrong.

How often I have felt this way the past 19 months. I say this because my whole pregnancy I doubted myself, the actions I took, the way I handled everything. I gained too much weight. I didn’t read enough. I didn’t go to enough classes. And now that Carson is here, my doubts have shifted. I still worry about myself, I haven’t lost any weight post pregnancy, I don’t feel like I look or behave like other moms. Continue reading

9 Gifs That Sum Up The Home-Buying Experience

10 Gifs That Sum Up The Home-Buying Experience

By Becky Houdesheldt

Home-buying is one of the most exciting and exhausting experiences ever. I have gone through the process twice, in less than 3 years, and I can tell you that knowing what was coming the second time did not make the process any smoother than the first time.

The first house I made an offer on I fell in love with, only to be incredibly disappointed after the inspection. I was completely distraught. I gave up on the search, and when I picked back up a couple months later, I found my first home! The place I bought was funky and cute. It had subway tile in the bathrooms and tin ceiling as the backsplash in the kitchen. It had open cabinets and lots of windows. It had a laundry room with a window in it, out to my quaint, adorable backyard. It was also at the end of a giant hill that was treacherous in the winter, and only had one other way out, which was through an alley that was not paved. It wasn’t even really filled in. I didn’t see those things when I found it. I just saw a place to call my own, and I loved it. Continue reading

20 Foolproof Steps to Working Out in the Third Trimester of Pregnancy

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By Jillian Stacia

We all know that working out requires a certain level of motivation. And exercising while pregnant is particularly challenging. But working out in the third trimester? That’s something else entirely.

That’s why we created this 20-step exercise regimen for the extremely pregnant. It’s the ideal program for those dealing with heartburn, back pain, and frequent urination. For best results, skip working out altogether and watch Netflix instead. Continue reading

I Am Woman, Hear Me Shame: 4 Ways to Kill Your Inner Misogynist

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By Eliza David

Being a woman is a LOT. We face a litany of challenges, wearing many hats as we navigate through the jungle of sexism. But alas – the drama doesn’t end there. Many of us are also subject to racism, homophobia, lower pay, ageism, mommy guilt, or a wicked combo of any and all. It’s tough stuff, which is why the last thing we need as women is to turn on each other.

In a New York Times op-ed piece, actress/alleged feminist Mayim Bialik pointed to beholding beauty standards and lack of modesty as invitations to sexual assault (and then subsequently offered a quasi-apology for the absentminded piece). Although her cringe-worthy words were 2,736 types of wrong, it created a dialogue among women regarding how we can be our own worst enemies. The knee-jerk reaction to uphold the low standards of misogyny has been internalized. I’ve been guilty of it myself in the past – we all have, I’m willing to wager. Continue reading

15 Fall Activities For Every Mood

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By De and Kate

While there’s not a whole lot we can all agree on in 2017, one thing is for certain: Fall is the best season. Between its crisp air, changing colors, delicious flavors, and plentiful activities, it’s got a little something for everyone. If you ask us, it’s singular biggest downfall is how fast it always seems to go. We hardly feel like we have the time to soak in the glory of the season before it’s over and winter has arrived. To express our appreciation for this world in which there are Octobers, we’ve compiled a list of all the ways to make the most of fall this year. Continue reading

Sexual Assault Survivors Don’t Owe You Their Stories

Sexual Assault Survivors Don't Owe You Their Stories

By Jillian Leslie

A two-word hashtag started by actress, Alyssa Milano, filled up our Facebook, Twitter and Instagram feeds this week. #MeToo was created to shed light on the amount of women who’ve fallen victim to sexual assault. It was successful to say the least. Countless brave, heroic women shared their horror stories and bared their scars for the world to see. Women spoke out in an effort to educate the unaffected and break down the barrier of silence our society builds around sexual assault. While scores of women participated, others purposefully left themselves out of the dialogue for fear of being criticized, judged or triggered. Do sexual assault victims owe the Internet their story? No, and here’s why: Continue reading

If Your Response to Rape Culture Is #NotAllMen, You’re Part of the Problem

By Kirsten Parnell

Numbers have never been my strong point — math class used to reduce me to tears on a semi-regular basis. But over the last few days, as more and more allegations against Harvey Weinstein have surfaced, and millions of women have shared their stories of harassment using the hashtag #metoo, I’ve started to have more faith in numbers. The sheer volume of stories makes the Harvey Weinstein scandal feel like a watershed moment. I’ve watched the media coverage with a mixture of sadness and relief: the pervasiveness of the problem is depressing, but now it’s dominating the news agenda, maybe we’ll actually start to see a change. Continue reading

7 Silly Feuds That All 90s Girls Will Remember

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By De and Kate

We may be biased in believing that growing up in the 90s was the best. After all, every generation seems to have a little nostalgic pride when thinking about their own version of “the good old days”. That being said, we wouldn’t trade our pre-iPhone childhood for anything, and we’re still amused looking back on the things that occupied our time and energy growing up. If you were a fellow stirrup leggings and Starter jacket girl of the 90s, then chances are, you too had these laughable arguments with your best friend. Continue reading