An Open Letter to Sarah Huckabee Sanders, From a Survivor of Assault

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By Christie Page

Dear Sarah Huckabee Sanders,

It is finally time I penned this letter to you directly. I have spent quite some time deciding on the tone of this letter and what I want to reflect. Most importantly, I have asked myself if I were you, what would I need to hear to empathize with the plight of millions of women who have bravely come forward in an effort to be heard?

I wonder about you. I wonder if in those moments when you are alone in your car on your commute to work, or when you first wake up in the morning before your feet hit the ground, if ever there is a time when you say to yourself: “I can’t do this anymore.” Continue reading

One Year In Trump’s America: Why I’m Raising My Son To Be A Feminist

By Catherine Miele

My beautiful son, my first and only (so far) child, is three.

He is too young to understand the current political climate or the fact that one year ago our country elected a man who wore his sexist comments, allegations of groping women, and desire to divide like badges of honor.

Too young to know the meaning of words and phrases like “misogyny,” “reproductive rights,” “hypocrisy,” and “consent.” Continue reading

I Am Woman, Hear Me Shame: 4 Ways to Kill Your Inner Misogynist

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By Eliza David

Being a woman is a LOT. We face a litany of challenges, wearing many hats as we navigate through the jungle of sexism. But alas – the drama doesn’t end there. Many of us are also subject to racism, homophobia, lower pay, ageism, mommy guilt, or a wicked combo of any and all. It’s tough stuff, which is why the last thing we need as women is to turn on each other.

In a New York Times op-ed piece, actress/alleged feminist Mayim Bialik pointed to beholding beauty standards and lack of modesty as invitations to sexual assault (and then subsequently offered a quasi-apology for the absentminded piece). Although her cringe-worthy words were 2,736 types of wrong, it created a dialogue among women regarding how we can be our own worst enemies. The knee-jerk reaction to uphold the low standards of misogyny has been internalized. I’ve been guilty of it myself in the past – we all have, I’m willing to wager. Continue reading

Sexual Assault Survivors Don’t Owe You Their Stories

Sexual Assault Survivors Don't Owe You Their Stories

By Jillian Leslie

A two-word hashtag started by actress, Alyssa Milano, filled up our Facebook, Twitter and Instagram feeds this week. #MeToo was created to shed light on the amount of women who’ve fallen victim to sexual assault. It was successful to say the least. Countless brave, heroic women shared their horror stories and bared their scars for the world to see. Women spoke out in an effort to educate the unaffected and break down the barrier of silence our society builds around sexual assault. While scores of women participated, others purposefully left themselves out of the dialogue for fear of being criticized, judged or triggered. Do sexual assault victims owe the Internet their story? No, and here’s why: Continue reading

If Your Response to Rape Culture Is #NotAllMen, You’re Part of the Problem

By Kirsten Parnell

Numbers have never been my strong point — math class used to reduce me to tears on a semi-regular basis. But over the last few days, as more and more allegations against Harvey Weinstein have surfaced, and millions of women have shared their stories of harassment using the hashtag #metoo, I’ve started to have more faith in numbers. The sheer volume of stories makes the Harvey Weinstein scandal feel like a watershed moment. I’ve watched the media coverage with a mixture of sadness and relief: the pervasiveness of the problem is depressing, but now it’s dominating the news agenda, maybe we’ll actually start to see a change. Continue reading

We Need to Stop Celebrating Mediocre Men

By Jillian Stacia

Recently an Instagram post  by author Robbie Tripp went viral. It was a post about his love for his wife, despite her larger figure.

People were immediately drawn to the post, and congratulated Tripp on being so outspoken about his acceptance and adoration of larger bodies. Comments such as “I wish I could find a man like you” and “You are so inspiring” flooded his Instagram. BuzzFeed and HuffPost ran stories depicting the so-called insane level of cuteness.

And yeah, it’s always nice to see someone profess their adoration for their partner. Who doesn’t love love? But the reality is, there are MANY things wrong with Tripp’s post including his narrow definition of feminism, his ironic tendency to praise one body type over another, and his seemingly #humblebrag that he deserves a trophy for loving his curvy wife. Continue reading

5 Lady-Boss Inspirations to Take Away From “Girls Trip”

By Eliza David

Like most women in America, I looked forward to the premiere weekend of the comedy blockbuster, Girls Trip. This was not only a movie centering around black women with a message of friendship, but it was filled with all the naughty comedy a romance writer like me can appreciate. I went to see the film on its opening Friday night and walked away with a headache from laughing so much. Girls Trip boasts an ensemble of talented ladies, great writing, raucous humor, and beautiful men. It was beyond awesome, everything I wanted in a comedy – period. I hadn’t laughed that hard at a comedy since Amy Poehler/Tina Fey’s Sisters, but the fabulous foursome of Queen Latifah, Jada Pinkett-Smith, Regina Hall, and Tiffany Haddish are on higher plane than any comedy ensemble I’ve seen in years.

But, beyond the laughs, your resident #GirlBoss Guru walked away with some reminders that soothed both my business mind and busy soul. Continue reading

How Sansa Stark Is Redefining Feminine Power Both On And Off The Screen

How Sansa Stark Is Redefining Feminine Power Both On And Off The Screen

By Jillian Stacia

Sansa Stark is arguably one of the most divisive characters on Game of Thrones. She’s been known to repulse viewers with her naïve and immature tendencies, and she’s the character fans tend to like the least.

On the other hand, supporters of Sansa claim that she’s slowly emerging as a feminist leader and is carving out a new definition for what it means to be a strong woman in a world dominated and ruled by men. Continue reading

What An Airline Encounter Taught Me About Society’s Respect for Women

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It is a warm spring morning. I am on my way home from my honeymoon: an 11-hour flight from Honolulu to New York. I need to pee, so I walk to the restroom behind my row. Alas, it is occupied, so I stand and wait patiently.

A kind man speaks to me from across the row, gesturing for me to cut him in line at an adjacent bathroom. We are in a standoff of sorts: chivalry versus patience.

“You can go ahead of me” he says, and gestures to me a second time. I gaze and see that I must cross a row of four with two sleeping passengers. I weigh my options, and realize I can get by with plenty of space to not wake them, so I accept the kind offer to go ahead of this man. Continue reading