We’re Going To Be Okay

We're Going To Be Okay

By Jillian Stacia

It’s been a rough couple of days. If you live in America then you know what I mean.

When things like this happen, I find myself falling silent. Not in my personal life, or on social media, or in my own private journals, but here, in this space. More than ever, I’m realizing just how important our words are. I want to make sure I get them right. I don’t want to be another voice in the void. I don’t want to add more fuel to the fire. I don’t want to say something just because. Continue reading

How Are You…Really?

How Are You...Really

By Kate Kole

I’ve noticed a trend in talking with others recently. Not with anyone in particular or specifically from my mouth or theirs. It’s just been a common theme, seemingly weaving its way across conversations.

It usually starts with a question of how things are going or what’s new. And abiding that some form of the answers “fine” and “nothing really” aren’t habitually given, a real life response often follows. Continue reading

10 Things I Learned From Not Drinking For A Year

10 Things I Learned From Not Drinking For A Year

By Jillian Stacia

When I decided to quit drinking, I wasn’t sure I’d be able to make it for very long. A life without margaritas or beer? It seemed impossible. But like most challenges, the anticipation of the thing was worse than the thing itself. It’s been hard at times (thanks FOMO), but it has been worth it in almost every aspect. Here are some of the top things I learned since quitting drinking one year ago: Continue reading

Life > Our Bodies

Life Is Bigger Than Our Bodies

By Kate Kole

I went to the beach last week. And for the first time in 2 years, I decided to bare my belly in the sun. Because, I wanted to go into the water with my nephews and relax on our sprawled-out blanket. I wanted to listen to the soft waves roll onto the shore, and feel my feet sink into the sand, and watch the sunlight glisten on the water without giving my body as much as a second thought.

Mere moments after taking off my tank top, my desire to forget about my figure and focus on an afternoon with my family faded. I began studying my stomach, critiquing its imperfections and the way it folded as I sat down in my chair. I glanced around, staring at other women, feeling the all too familiar urge to compare my body to theirs. Continue reading

We Need to Stop Celebrating Mediocre Men

By Jillian Stacia

Recently an Instagram post  by author Robbie Tripp went viral. It was a post about his love for his wife, despite her larger figure.

People were immediately drawn to the post, and congratulated Tripp on being so outspoken about his acceptance and adoration of larger bodies. Comments such as “I wish I could find a man like you” and “You are so inspiring” flooded his Instagram. BuzzFeed and HuffPost ran stories depicting the so-called insane level of cuteness.

And yeah, it’s always nice to see someone profess their adoration for their partner. Who doesn’t love love? But the reality is, there are MANY things wrong with Tripp’s post including his narrow definition of feminism, his ironic tendency to praise one body type over another, and his seemingly #humblebrag that he deserves a trophy for loving his curvy wife. Continue reading

5 Lady-Boss Inspirations to Take Away From “Girls Trip”

By Eliza David

Like most women in America, I looked forward to the premiere weekend of the comedy blockbuster, Girls Trip. This was not only a movie centering around black women with a message of friendship, but it was filled with all the naughty comedy a romance writer like me can appreciate. I went to see the film on its opening Friday night and walked away with a headache from laughing so much. Girls Trip boasts an ensemble of talented ladies, great writing, raucous humor, and beautiful men. It was beyond awesome, everything I wanted in a comedy – period. I hadn’t laughed that hard at a comedy since Amy Poehler/Tina Fey’s Sisters, but the fabulous foursome of Queen Latifah, Jada Pinkett-Smith, Regina Hall, and Tiffany Haddish are on higher plane than any comedy ensemble I’ve seen in years.

But, beyond the laughs, your resident #GirlBoss Guru walked away with some reminders that soothed both my business mind and busy soul. Continue reading

We’re All Just Learning As We Go

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By Kate Kole

I completed my 200-hour yoga teacher training 3 years ago this month. And yet, it feels like the journey, inquiry, and knowledge I gained through that experience, and through my practice and teaching is still its infancy. Like I have so much left to unveil and discover, so many more books to read, and so much more anatomy and alignment to learn. What I once viewed as my ending point of having attained the certificate declaring my status as a registered instructor often feels like it was more of a launching pad.

The work is truly never done. In high school and college, that thought would have frustrated and intimidated me. I loved the idea of starting points and completion, and I relished crossing off the tasks I needed to accomplish in order to bridge the gap between the two. Yet now, my view has shifted. I’m excited by the thought that in many ways, I’m still a novice in my field. The prospect of the perspective and wisdom I have left to gain fuels my passion daily and contributes to my desire for growth. Continue reading

10 Things You Should Never Say To A Pregnant Woman

10 Things You Should Never Say To A Pregnant Woman

By Jillian Stacia

At 5 months pregnant, I’ve had my fair share of awkward encounters with strangers wanting to discuss my pregnancy. Although many people think they’re being polite and showing interest, most of the time, it’s just plain awkward and leaves me feeling incredibly self-conscious.

Pregnancy is a very personal and emotional experience for most women, so air on the side of caution and try to avoid these questions and statements, especially if the person isn’t your close friend or family member. Continue reading

Life Is Now

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By Kate Kole

You know those stories your family members have told so many times, that even if you can’t fully remember them yourself, or you weren’t present for the making of the memories in the first place, it feels like you were? You can picture the people and the scene so well that you practically convince yourself that you were right there in the middle of the action, laughter, and joy. Continue reading