Bringing Darkness Into The Light

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By Kate Kole

My biggest fear in ever sharing anything deeply personal is that it will be universally unreciprocated. That I will express my darkest thoughts or my biggest insecurities, and then I’ll look to the person sitting across from me for a nod of understanding as they instead gaze back with a bewildered expression. That I’ll lay it all out on a phone call and hear radio silence on the other end. That I’ll dig to the root of what keeps me up at night or disclose what holds me back from going after what I want in life and that I’ll be offered a sort of pitiful sympathy and the number of a good expert to see, rather than empathetic understanding and affirmation. Essentially, that I’ll come to discover my most isolating and unnerving feelings really are as weird, unnatural, and individual as I feared them to be. Continue reading

On Learning to Love & Live The Questions

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By Jillian Stacia

There’s this quote from Rainer Maria Rilke that I’m obsessed with:

 “Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps someday far in the future, you will live your way into the answers.”

Now I don’t know Rilke, and this might sound like a particularly woo-woo thing to say, but I know without a doubt that he wrote those words especially for me. Somewhere, almost 100 years ago, a young Rilke was channeling a neurotic twenty something woman when he wrote those lines. Well, maybe not. But isn’t that the thing about great writing? It transcends decades and genders and circumstances and snaps something back into place deep inside of you? Continue reading

How To Be A Leader When Grappling With Anxiety

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By Kristina Baltutis

In today’s society, we are in desperate need of more leaders. Not necessarily people with leadership titles, but people who are actually, truly, on the front lines of our schools, workplaces, and communities, striving to make the world a better place for people other than themselves.

If you haven’t heard this call to leadership, you aren’t listening. It’s all over the news and your newsfeed, every time you see someone crying out, “Someone do something.” Sound familiar? Perhaps you’ve heard the call, but anxiety wracks your body with doubt and sends you right back under the covers, or, perhaps more commonly, causes you to keep scrolling.   Continue reading

Enough Is Enough

Enough Is Enough

By Kate Kole

Maybe it’s because summer is coming. Or maybe it’s because I’m a sensitive person, or because I work in the fitness industry, or because I’m a recovering perfectionist. I’m not really sure what the main culprit is. All I know is that I’m increasingly getting the sense and feeling the message that the toned body comes first and the confidence comes second. That sculpted arms and tight tummies are the ticket to self-love. That acceptance comes with a smaller pants size and prettier face. That embracing who we are is only really possible once we’ve achieved our goals and proven our worth. And that feeling like we are enough is and always will be contingent on something external. Continue reading

Lessons From The Mat: Letting Go And Living Now

Letting Go And Living Now

By Kate Kole

Close your eyes. Now notice, where in your body are you holding tension that you can release?

That was the cue my yoga instructor called, prompting me to get curious about what was happening physically as I transitioned into Warrior 2. I softened the space between my eyes and unclenched my jaw. I relaxed my shoulders away from my ears and made the conscious effort to deepen my breath. And then, with that freed up energy, I sank further into the pose. Continue reading

Just Show Up

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By Kate Kole

I love the moments in life where things just seem to click. When a song plays, or a conversation happens, or a piece is published – and right there, in that instance, you could practically swear it was meant for you – like the universe somehow aligned to give you the boost, inspiration, or wisdom you needed to carry on. Continue reading

To All The Pregnant Ladies Who Are Officially Over Unsolicited Advice

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By Vanessa Sams

Greetings to all amazing women out there! I’m here to talk about something that is relatively less accepted as an open topic at dinner parties; namely what happens when you are pregnant and not gushing around with giddiness.

Now, this post isn’t about downright misery. This is about when you are at a dinner and you stare at a bottle of wine longingly, and someone (who of course must be the Dalai Lama) wisely tells you, “oh but think of how you’re growing a little life!” And you instantly want to stab them. However, instead you feel compelled to nod and smile and say, “you are so right!”. Or, this might be a post about those times when you can’t walk around unassumingly without someone announcing horrible things that could be happening to you. These times may go something like, … you are walking… a random stranger approaches… they stop to say, “are you ready for all of that sleeplessness and diaper changing Mama?!” Give me a break. Continue reading

10 Things I’ve Learned Since I Started Writing About My Feelings On The Internet

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By Jillian Stacia

Exactly one year ago, I started writing about my feelings on the internet. And it’s been one of the best, hardest, weirdest, most rewarding things I’ve ever done. Pursuing your passion is always an intense process. But to do so on the internet, in front of- quite literally- millions of people, has been one of the bravest things I’ve ever done.

And I’ve learned a lot along the way. I’ve learned so much about myself, about writing, and about what it takes to go after your dreams. To help me reflect on my journey, here are some of the top lessons I’ve learned since hitting “send” on that very first submission: Continue reading