11 Pregnancy Symptoms That Are Straight-Up Bizarre

By De and Kate

Having both been pregnant within the last year, we often send multiple “so this is a cool thing happening in and around my body today” messages to one another. Because, while we know that carrying a child is a gift and we wouldn’t trade the opportunity, it can also be a little weird, uncomfortable, and kinda gross. Staying true to our promise to always keep it real on Thirty On Tap, here are 11 pregnancy moments we’ve experienced that didn’t fall within the typical back pain, weight gain, and food cravings that we fully expected. Continue reading

6 Ideas For Gender-Neutral Baby Gifts

By Brigitte Evans

More and more people choose to keep their baby’s sex a secret until the baby shower, or they don’t even want to know themselves before the birth. Or perhaps they want to raise their child in a gender-neutral environment to protect them from all the stereotypes that are placed by society on young kids — not to mention the fact that gender identity is up to the child themselves. And while this decision is definitely celebrated, it can make buying presents a bit of a nightmare, since so many baby things are separated by gender — a trend that, hopefully, will dissipate as our society begins to embrace the idea that gender exists on a spectrum, and is not binary. 

That said, here are some suggestions for gender-neutral baby gifts to get you going: Continue reading

I’m Still Learning How to Hold on to Some Memories (And Let Go of Others)

By De Elizabeth

I remember being a kid, and thinking that the school years lasted forever. One cycle of September to June felt like an eternity, as I counted down the days until classes ended and camp began. Of course, once summer came, everything was reversed. I’d blink, and the first day of camp became the last. My friends, some of whom I only saw during the summer months, and I would sit atop hot gravel in tight hugs, tears streaming down our faces. Why, we wondered, did we wish time away? What we would have given to go back to day one. Continue reading

There Are No Road Maps. And That’s Okay

There Are No Road Maps. And That_s Okay

By Kate Kole

I experienced my fair share of self-inflicted anxiety over turning 30 last year. That milestone marker into my next decade of life brought all the feels. The age itself didn’t seem old. I just didn’t think I had done or accomplished enough to show for it. I saw former classmates becoming what they’d set out to become – doctors and lawyers, professors and business owners – and I felt measly in comparison. I saw other writers being published on bigger platforms. I saw other yoga instructors traveling and teaching in exotic places. I saw, with decided eyes, what I’d set out to see: other people succeeding, while I struggled to keep pace. Everyone around me knowing exactly what they wanted out of life, while I wondered if I’d ever have a clue. And though I reminded myself often that “comparison is the thief of joy,” it seemed I couldn’t help but get lost in the land of where and how I measured. Continue reading

Is February the Only Month of Love in Our Lives?

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By Isabel F. William

With February being a few days away, romantics all over the world are overwhelmed by a strange, jittery feeling. For some, this feeling represents excitement for the upcoming month of love and romance. For others, it’s a feeling of slight nervousness because of the pressure to plan perfect dates and gifts for their partners. And then, there’s a third side to this feeling. The feeling of pressure and slight sadness over the fact that this is yet another February they’re spending without a partner. Whether it’s excitement, anxiety or stress, it all comes down to a single month, or to be more precise, to a single day – Valentine’s Day, posing the inevitable question – is February the only month of love and romance in modern relationships? Continue reading

7 Steps to Creating a Cozy Nursery

By Brigitte Evans

A new baby is a fantastic gift, and parents want to do everything in their power to make their little bundle of joy feel loved and welcome. One of the ways of doing that is definitely by designing a beautiful nursery. That enthusiasm often results in overcrowding the baby’s room with tons of unnecessary and expensive things, and sometimes even forgetting about the essential items for the baby’s wellbeing. That’s why you need to stop, take a deep breath, and think about what you really need in the nursery. Just in case, we have prepared a short guide for you. Continue reading

The Pressure On New Moms to Be Perfect Is Overwhelming

By De Elizabeth

It begins, appropriately enough, with pregnancy: the need to do everything — and I mean everything — to perfection. Drink enough water. Exercise, but not too much. Eat healthy foods, but watch out for ones that are dangerous. Get the nursery ready, but don’t over-exert yourself. “Sleep while you can,” but not on your back. Prepare as much as possible, but know that some things are out of your control.

That lack of control, that constant mystery, that’s what’s so difficult when striving to be as perfect as possible. You can have all the information, and yet, you don’t really know what’s happening inside your body, not until the baby is born and it’s all over.

But it’s not really all over, because a whole new layer begins. Continue reading

It Might Be Time To Take A Break In Your Relationship With Social Media

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By Isabel F. William

We all know how useful social media can be when it comes to chatting with our friends, sharing photos,  and making plans. But, not many of us are aware of all the negative and even dangerous side effects of spending too much time on it. Everything that we see on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram can affect our real life. Here are some ways in which social media can impact you and your relationships. Continue reading