I’m Done Apologizing

Sorry I'm Not Sorry

By Catherine Miele

All of my life, I’ve been “the apologizer.”

I’ve struggled with insecurity and an exhausting perfectionism since I was a young child, and while I can be incredibly selfish at times, I was also blessed with the “people pleasing” gene.

Now that I’m mommy to a toddler and continuing to work full-time outside of my home, I’ve found a whole new set of things for which I must apologize.

But here’s the thing. Constantly saying “I’m sorry” for one’s existence or personality benefits nobody. Continue reading

One Year In Trump’s America: Why I’m Raising My Son To Be A Feminist

By Catherine Miele

My beautiful son, my first and only (so far) child, is three.

He is too young to understand the current political climate or the fact that one year ago our country elected a man who wore his sexist comments, allegations of groping women, and desire to divide like badges of honor.

Too young to know the meaning of words and phrases like “misogyny,” “reproductive rights,” “hypocrisy,” and “consent.” Continue reading

I Am Woman, Hear Me Shame: 4 Ways to Kill Your Inner Misogynist

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By Eliza David

Being a woman is a LOT. We face a litany of challenges, wearing many hats as we navigate through the jungle of sexism. But alas – the drama doesn’t end there. Many of us are also subject to racism, homophobia, lower pay, ageism, mommy guilt, or a wicked combo of any and all. It’s tough stuff, which is why the last thing we need as women is to turn on each other.

In a New York Times op-ed piece, actress/alleged feminist Mayim Bialik pointed to beholding beauty standards and lack of modesty as invitations to sexual assault (and then subsequently offered a quasi-apology for the absentminded piece). Although her cringe-worthy words were 2,736 types of wrong, it created a dialogue among women regarding how we can be our own worst enemies. The knee-jerk reaction to uphold the low standards of misogyny has been internalized. I’ve been guilty of it myself in the past – we all have, I’m willing to wager. Continue reading

We Need to Stop Celebrating Mediocre Men

By Jillian Stacia

Recently an Instagram post  by author Robbie Tripp went viral. It was a post about his love for his wife, despite her larger figure.

People were immediately drawn to the post, and congratulated Tripp on being so outspoken about his acceptance and adoration of larger bodies. Comments such as “I wish I could find a man like you” and “You are so inspiring” flooded his Instagram. BuzzFeed and HuffPost ran stories depicting the so-called insane level of cuteness.

And yeah, it’s always nice to see someone profess their adoration for their partner. Who doesn’t love love? But the reality is, there are MANY things wrong with Tripp’s post including his narrow definition of feminism, his ironic tendency to praise one body type over another, and his seemingly #humblebrag that he deserves a trophy for loving his curvy wife. Continue reading

How Sansa Stark Is Redefining Feminine Power Both On And Off The Screen

How Sansa Stark Is Redefining Feminine Power Both On And Off The Screen

By Jillian Stacia

Sansa Stark is arguably one of the most divisive characters on Game of Thrones. She’s been known to repulse viewers with her naïve and immature tendencies, and she’s the character fans tend to like the least.

On the other hand, supporters of Sansa claim that she’s slowly emerging as a feminist leader and is carving out a new definition for what it means to be a strong woman in a world dominated and ruled by men. Continue reading

What An Airline Encounter Taught Me About Society’s Respect for Women

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It is a warm spring morning. I am on my way home from my honeymoon: an 11-hour flight from Honolulu to New York. I need to pee, so I walk to the restroom behind my row. Alas, it is occupied, so I stand and wait patiently.

A kind man speaks to me from across the row, gesturing for me to cut him in line at an adjacent bathroom. We are in a standoff of sorts: chivalry versus patience.

“You can go ahead of me” he says, and gestures to me a second time. I gaze and see that I must cross a row of four with two sleeping passengers. I weigh my options, and realize I can get by with plenty of space to not wake them, so I accept the kind offer to go ahead of this man. Continue reading

5 Nasty Women Who Are Doing This Resistance Thing Better Than Anyone Else

5 Nasty Women Who Are Doing This Resistance Thing Better Than Anyone Else

By Jillian Stacia

It’s been more than six months since Trump took office, and it seems like there is a new catastrophe every day. It’s hard to stay committed to resistance when it’s so much easier to stick your head in the sand – or in front of Netflix – and pretend like none of this is happening.

But as tempting as that may be, we owe it to each other to keep fighting. That’s why we’ve compiled a list of women are kicking ass at this resistance thing. Hopefully you’ll get some ideas, or at the very least some inspiration, to help you stay focused. Don’t give up hope, nasty women! We need you! Continue reading

I Didn’t Think I Was A Feminist

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By Laura Mitchell-­Ghafoor

I didn’t used to be a feminist. Or at least, identify as a feminist. I used to say, “Feminism? Not my cup of tea, thanks.” I had an argument once about how celebrities arguing over trivial things and labelling it as feminism diluted their argument and that was why I wasn’t a feminist; like equality could be compared to squash mixed with too much water at a barbecue in summer. I wasn’t militant. I wasn’t born in the days when women couldn’t have jobs, and right then, there were more pressing issues, thank you very much.

Only – and it’s been difficult to say this in the past, although the more you say it the slightly easier it becomes- I was entirely wrong.

Yes, I am a feminist.

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