Hold Space For Your Feelings

By De Elizabeth

I have most of my “serious” conversations over text these days. As a mom of a 2-year-old, I only have a handful of quiet pockets of time each day, most of which are usually spent catching up on work, answering emails, doing laundry (or at least thinking about doing laundry), and some form of self-care, which typically entails lying on the couch and staring into space for as long as possible. Gone are the days when I could spend an hour (or more) on the phone with my best friends, or G-chat into oblivion during a lazy afternoon.

Getting into it over text isn’t ideal, in part because I overthink everything, particularly when I’m talking about something serious — or revealing something raw. A few months ago, I found myself in one of those ~serious~ group texts with my two best friends from college, trying to form words and sentences to articulate thoughts that had only existed, up until that point, in a foggy loop inside my brain. In typical fashion, I followed up a giant blue brick of text with a few emojis and “Sorry to unleash on you guys LOL.”

As customary for true friends, they responded immediately with “Don’t apologize” / “You have nothing to be sorry for.” And then, one of them added: “We’ll always hold space for your feelings. You can talk to us about anything.”

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Her Life Isn’t Perfect Either

By Kate Kole

Communal restrooms and a shared cubicle for a bedroom were hardly my favorite part of dorm living in college. I habitually whispered “I’m sorry” to my roommate as I whipped up my morning smoothie before 8 am class. No need for an alarm clock when you have a blender on full speed just feet away from your bunk. 

That being said, what I’ve come to retrospectively appreciate, was the inability to fully hide anything. 

My friends knew when I had a hard day, because I had to cry somewhere. And unless I chose a dirty bathroom stall, privacy wasn’t really an option. Homesickness, insecurities, and academic struggles were on full display. 

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A Love Letter to Coffee

By De Elizabeth

Over half of my life has revolved around coffee.

Since I was a teenager, I started my day the exact same way: with a cup of coffee, usually in a cute mug, with a splash of something. That “something” has evolved over time; first, it was skim milk and sugar, then just skim milk, then soy milk, then nothing at all, then almond milk, and now, a blend of almond and coconut milk. But coffee has arguably been more than just a beverage, more than just a staple in my morning routine. For every significant chapter, every significant event in my life, coffee has somehow been involved. It’s more than a drink; it’s a moment, a marker in time, an olive branch, a vice, a grain of a memory.

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My Life Looks Different Than I Thought It Would

My Life Looks Different Than I Thought It Would

By Kate Kole

Sometime during middle school, I picked the house I would live in once I became a grown up. It was a 10-minute walk from my childhood home, quaint and complete with a white picket fence.

I imagined my brother and sister would buy places in the same neighborhood. We’d all get married and have kids. They’d play little league together and we’d barbecue with my parents on Sunday afternoons. Continue reading

16 Gifts For the BFF In Your Life

By De and Kate

The holiday season is finally here (although, let’s be real, we’ve been playing Christmas music and drinking gingerbread lattes since Halloween). Unless you’re a total scrooge, one of the best parts of this time of year is definitely shopping for gifts. As we get older, we find that gift-giving is even more rewarding than opening our own presents, especially when you find something that you just know the person will love.

But sometimes shopping can be difficult, which is why gift guides are the most important things ever to exist online. And if you’re in need of a super-cute present that’s just perfect for your best friend, we’ve got you covered. Ahead, check out 16 adorable gifts that you definitely won’t want to skimp on. Continue reading

5 Lady-Boss Inspirations to Take Away From “Girls Trip”

By Eliza David

Like most women in America, I looked forward to the premiere weekend of the comedy blockbuster, Girls Trip. This was not only a movie centering around black women with a message of friendship, but it was filled with all the naughty comedy a romance writer like me can appreciate. I went to see the film on its opening Friday night and walked away with a headache from laughing so much. Girls Trip boasts an ensemble of talented ladies, great writing, raucous humor, and beautiful men. It was beyond awesome, everything I wanted in a comedy – period. I hadn’t laughed that hard at a comedy since Amy Poehler/Tina Fey’s Sisters, but the fabulous foursome of Queen Latifah, Jada Pinkett-Smith, Regina Hall, and Tiffany Haddish are on higher plane than any comedy ensemble I’ve seen in years.

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Dear Siblings…

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By Jillian Stacia

Dear Siblings,

It’s National Sibling Day, and I was going to write an essay about the importance of siblings or maybe a listicle about how to strengthen your relationship, but instead I decided to write you a letter. I’m not sure why, but it felt right.  And I’m trying to do more of the things that just feel right these days.

I don’t know where to begin other than, I love being your sister. Being your sister is the role of a lifetime. I say it often, but I truly believe we won the sibling jackpot. You are all such fantastic, deeply good people in your own ways, and it is a true honor just to know you. Continue reading