Bumper Stickers Can Wait

By Kate Kole

It’s usually bumper stickers that start it.

I’ll be walking my son in his stroller, watching him pull at his socks and kick his legs happily as he woofs back at dogs in the neighborhood. I’m usually listening to a podcast about motherhood, nodding my head as the women I’ve self-declared as friends talk about how they do mornings and meal times and meet other moms.

I’ll catch a glimpse of a bumper sticker as a minivan rolls by. Something about dance or soccer. My mind will start to wander. I’ll begin imagining recitals and open fields. I’ll think of our blonde little boy chasing a ball. I picture buns and tutus. Orange slices and Gatorade. Cheering on sidelines and carpool lines. 

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We’re Going To Be Okay

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By Jillian Stacia

It’s been a rough couple of days. If you live in America then you know what I mean.

When things like this happen, I find myself falling silent. Not in my personal life, or on social media, or in my own private journals, but here, in this space. More than ever, I’m realizing just how important our words are. I want to make sure I get them right. I don’t want to be another voice in the void. I don’t want to add more fuel to the fire. I don’t want to say something just because. Continue reading

On Learning to Love & Live The Questions

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By Jillian Stacia

There’s this quote from Rainer Maria Rilke that I’m obsessed with:

 “Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps someday far in the future, you will live your way into the answers.”

Now I don’t know Rilke, and this might sound like a particularly woo-woo thing to say, but I know without a doubt that he wrote those words especially for me. Somewhere, almost 100 years ago, a young Rilke was channeling a neurotic twenty something woman when he wrote those lines. Well, maybe not. But isn’t that the thing about great writing? It transcends decades and genders and circumstances and snaps something back into place deep inside of you? Continue reading

4 Things To Consider When Buying Your First Place

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By Julie Winsel

It’s part of the traditional American dream: the house with the white picket fence, preferably somewhere that’s green, according to Aubrey from Little Shop of Horrors. Having your own house means you own all the walls and get to hang things and paint to your heart’s content. It means you can landscape, plant trees, and put anything you want in the garage. Continue reading