Grieving Through The What-Ifs

Grieving Through What-Ifs

By Becky Houdesheldt

This weekend my husband and I had to return the crib and dresser we purchased for our second baby. It was one of the most difficult things we’ve ever had to do. Because we paid with cash, and had no receipt, the team lead told us we’d get in-store credit for the department the furniture came from. I quietly told her we were no longer pregnant, and that being restricted to the baby section of the store was not something I wanted.

Writing about this loss has not been easy. It is a tricky thing, writing about grief. Especially the grief over a loved one we hadn’t even had the chance to meet yet. Grief is a strange thing, and dealing with loss has a tendency to be a lonely process. It seems to me as though we, as humans, have a difficult time trying to find the right things to say to help someone coping with grief and so, sometimes the easiest way to handle it is to give space to those grieving. Continue reading

7 Things I’ve Learned About Life And Motherhood Lately

7 Things I_ve Learned About Life And Motherhood Lately

By Chelsea O’Neal

In a world where society seems to tell us that we have to be perfect and to do everything with perfection, it’s a breath of fresh air to step back and realize a few things, not only about life, but about ourselves and those around us. That refreshing feeling of coming to place of really appreciating all that there is and accepting ourselves just the way we are.

Here are 7 things that have been enlightening in my daily routines: Continue reading

Good Enough Really Is Good Enough

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By Kate Kole

I love Melissa McCarthy and I really love Ellen DeGeneres, so I was a little bummed when I forgot to record their interview a few days ago. I asked my parents if they’d seen it and immediately knew they hadn’t when my dad responded something along the lines of, “Oh yeah. It was so funny.”

“Okay, so you didn’t see it either.” I said.

“Why do you say that?” He asked.

“Because, you’d say it was just okay,” my mom and I replied in unison. Continue reading

11 Pregnancy Symptoms That Are Straight-Up Bizarre

By De and Kate

Having both been pregnant within the last year, we often send multiple “so this is a cool thing happening in and around my body today” messages to one another. Because, while we know that carrying a child is a gift and we wouldn’t trade the opportunity, it can also be a little weird, uncomfortable, and kinda gross. Staying true to our promise to always keep it real on Thirty On Tap, here are 11 pregnancy moments we’ve experienced that didn’t fall within the typical back pain, weight gain, and food cravings that we fully expected. Continue reading

Unexpected Lessons From An Early Miscarriage

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By Kate Kole

Staring at the positive pregnancy stick this past summer was, simply put, surreal. My husband was tying his shoes to head out the door and I stopped him.

“Hey, I’m gonna take this test. I’m sure it’ll be nothing. But wait for just a minute.”

We stood, antsy. Pausing our lives for the result that promised to be ready in two minutes but felt more like 20.

“Pregnant.” Continue reading

My One Word Mantra For 2018

My One Word Mantra For 2018

By Kate Kole

My mind has always aired on the side of imaginative. As a kid, my friend Andrea and I would spend our after-school hours writing plays. We’d climb through the woods behind my childhood home and make up stories that we were lost in the wilderness, needing to eat berries and build shelter in order to survive. Forget the fact that you could still see the back of my house as we marched our way through broken branches. As far as our fantasies were concerned, we may as well have been states away.

My daydreams are a bit more grounded now. They don’t typically require the same level of suspended reality that they did 20 years ago…except when I ask my husband if we can make a fort in our living room. They’re more like an expansion of everyday life. If I’m feeling lonely, I picture what it’d be like to live a block away from my family. And if I’m feeling cold, I envision a move back to a place with palm trees. If I’m worried about the future, I imagine all the worst ways life could go wrong. And if I’m feeling optimistic, I map out best case scenarios in my mind. Continue reading

Aiming For Perfection: Beauty & Style Expectations vs. Reality

Aiming for Perfection Expectations vs. Reality

By Brigitte Evans

The universe surely has one heck of a sense of humor. How else to explain all those times we took it upon ourselves to achieve greatness and ended up looking like something you would find in a meme. Yes, our lack of skill may have something to do with it, but how is it that things look so good when we see them on someone else, and then when we try them, it’s a wretched mess? It has to be the universe standing in our way, it simply has to. Among numerous life fails, we have handpicked the ones that are the most relatable, and once you see one of them you can’t help but laugh along thinking ‘well, at least I’m not alone’. Continue reading

20 Foolproof Steps to Working Out in the Third Trimester of Pregnancy

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By Jillian Stacia

We all know that working out requires a certain level of motivation. And exercising while pregnant is particularly challenging. But working out in the third trimester? That’s something else entirely.

That’s why we created this 20-step exercise regimen for the extremely pregnant. It’s the ideal program for those dealing with heartburn, back pain, and frequent urination. For best results, skip working out altogether and watch Netflix instead. Continue reading

4 Things I Wish I’d Been Told Before My Wedding Day

4 Things I Wish I_d Been Told Before My Wedding Day

By Becky Houdesheldt

Here I am, one week after our wedding. Our ceremony and reception were beautiful. They were everything I wanted them to be. Slightly nerdy, incredibly elegant, classy and whimsical. The weather was absolutely perfect. I truly could not have asked for a better turnout – the friends and family who came to support us were incredible. My parents and Andrew’s parents put in so much work to make the day special. So many people put in so much time and effort for us, that I’m simply overwhelmed. It was the public declaration of our marriage on our one-year anniversary, as we’d had a simple quiet courthouse wedding the year before to make it official before the birth of our son.

I can tell you there are some things I was unprepared for with this whole wedding deal, and I’m going to share a few with you. I wish someone had prepared me adequately so that I wasn’t blindsided. Continue reading