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Vanessa Sams: Contributor Profile

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Vanessa is a BU grad who is currently working on being an adult. She is mostly motivated by traveling opportunities, new scientific discoveries, and fashion. Places Vanessa can be found this year will include libraries, museums, gaming conventions, and road trips. Her favorite number is zero. Her favorite book is Jane Eyre.

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“How is your day going? What does your heart feel like? Are you heavy? Light? Floating? Grinding? What does life look like for you, and how are you carrying the weight of it? I don’t know if anyone has told you recently, but you’re doing a great job. Maybe it’s the millennial in me, but I think we all deserve some recognition from time to time. Just getting out of bed these days can be an accomplishment. Look at all you’ve done. Look at all you’ve achieved. Take a second and breathe. You’re doing a great job. I hope you know that you’re not alone. I hope you remember that isolation is in your mind, that you’re not really all that special, in the best possible way. We are all singing different cover versions of the same old song. Everyone has tasted isolation and despair and sadness and shame, and there is nothing that you’ve done or haven’t done that could make you any different. You are never alone, even when it feels like you are. You are never isolated, even if you can’t see anyone beside you. There are eons of people who felt this way yesterday and legions of people who will feel this way tomorrow. And so it goes. I want to tell you to keep going. I want to tell you to dust yourself off and move forward. Even if you have to crawl. Just keep heading in the right direction. When you finally arrive, you will realize that it’s the journey that made you. It’s the stops along the way that made the difference.” Words via @jillianstacia | ‘This One’s For You’ Image via @unsplash #wisdom #worthy #purpose #selflove #selfacceptance #wordsofwisdom #showup #authenticity #wordstoliveby #inspiration
“I’m not sure exactly when the flip switched – when I decided that I needed to work for and earn access to all the things that bring me joy. I miss the days that I didn’t feel the internal pressure to explain my actions or prove their value. That I didn’t have to defend baking and working out as the ways I relieve stress, or reading and writing as the ways I unwind. That I could simply do the things I love because I love them, and that in and of itself, was reason enough. I’m done with the idea that being an adult means muscling through life as if there’s some prize at the end for the person with the most saved up sick days and the highest shown level of self-restraint. That medals get doled out to those with the lengthiest crossed-off TDLs and that shame is allotted to those who made time for the things that made their heart happy. If there’s space for meetings, taxes, oil changes, doctor’s appointments, deadlines, and laundry, then there’s gotta be space for long walks, coffee dates, relaxing, bad reality TV, good books, and deep conversations too. While I don’t know when the cultural obsession with self-care surfaced, I’m over it as some hot new concept to introduce and pencil into my routine. Because, to be honest, it seems that I instinctively knew more about taking care of myself as a 4-year-old that I do as a 31-year-old. Back before I was concerned with earning my keep and protecting my image, I rested when I was tired, I read before bed, and I wrote, because putting pen to paper made me feel alive. I want to get back to that place. To that girl who knew how to listen to and trust her body, heart, and soul, more than her mind and ego. And maybe that starts with just taking the damn nap, already.” Words via @katekole | ‘Take The Damn Nap’ Image via @pexelsphotos #selfcare #selflove #enough #worthy #realtalk #30s
“It’s hard to savor the moment when it’s the middle of the night and all I want to do is fall asleep, or when I couldn’t even hold her properly in the hospital room because of how much pain I was in. In those moments, the only thing that helps me stay sane and positive is the knowledge that this too, shall pass. And yet, so will everything else. And that makes me sad, consumed with nostalgia for memories that haven’t even happened yet. I’m already missing today, and today has barely begun. It’s a weird paradox that makes me feel completely stuck, and I’m not sure how to break free of the cycle. I suppose the only thing to do is to savor what I can, let go of what I can’t, and keep track of the things that I want to remember. If there’s one thing I have learned so far in the chapter of my adult life, it’s that time passes a lot faster than it did when we were younger. A year can feel like a lifetime as a kid; as a grownup, it sometimes feels like just a single month. So yes, this too shall pass, which is good, bad, and everything in between. And while “now” is really now, and not a memory, I’ll do what I can to appreciate as much as I can. And if I’m doing my best, I suppose that will have to be good enough.” Words via @deelizabeth9 | ‘I’m Already Nostalgic For Today’ Image via @unsplash #motherhood #reallife #realtalk #nostalgia #parenting #honesty #time #goodenough
“Since being pregnant and having my son, I’ve felt an intense guilt for not eating better during pregnancy, not having a drug free child birth, not enjoying those first precious moments with my little one, and pretty much everything else that happened during those 10 months. But, I have decided to let myself off the hook. Because you just can’t expect the unexpected – and your first pregnancy and child birth is definitely an unexpected and unknown territory. Not to mention, my son is fine. He’s better than fine. He’s healthy, he’s happy, and he has a family that loves him more than life itself. Pregnancy junk food, an epidural, feeling in a post-birth haze and all, the kid is alright! Plus, I know that motherhood is going to hold a lot more things that I did not plan for and envision. So, I can either waste time feeling guilty about these things in the past, or I can just get over them and try to enjoy the moments that are happening now. I choose now. And when I inevitably get lost overthinking and questioning the parenting decisions I’ve made, I’ll look at my son and soak in this moment instead.” Words via @kristinchristopoulos | ‘Expect The Unexpected When You’re Expecting’ Photo via @unsplash #pregnant #pregnancy #motherhood #momlife #momguilt #realtalk #gowiththeflow #thekidsarealright #whattoexpectwhenyoureexpecting
“My hips may be a little wide, my belly a little soft, my arms a little round. Depending on the angle, I could have a sleek face or chubby cheeks. My body is permanently changed after the birth of my kiddo. And his adorable dimpled cheeks and perfect little toes and sweet snuggles are worth every soft, rounded edge I have. I don’t know if I’ll ever be as thin as I once was. I do know I will forever be changed by that little boy. I don’t have to view myself as the enemy. I don’t have to view other women as competition. We are all in this together. Every woman has insecurities and hardships and struggles and triumphs and talents and strengths, and it’s time to start celebrating those.” Words via Becky Houdesheldt | ‘I’m Not The Enemy. You’re Not The Competition. We’re In This Together.’ Image via @unsplash #motherhood #women #womensupportingwomen #communityovercompetition #selflove #empoweringwomen
“Honestly, on the verge of becoming a new mom, I’m scared out of my mind. Of giving birth and of having a baby, because I’ve never really been a ‘baby person’. As a woman, that seems gasp worthy. I can practically hear other women raising their eyebrows, shrugging their shoulders, and whispering, “well, you know, she’s never really been a ‘baby person’. I’m scared of breastfeeding, bonding, and how my body will look and feel. I’m scared of hormones, change, and what will happen to my marriage. I’m scared that I won’t have what it takes, that I won’t be what our son needs, that I will fail. And in the midst of all that fear, I’m also more excited than I’ve ever been. To expand our family. To become a mom. To see my husband become a dad. To hold the baby I’ve prayed for and imagined in my mind. To start new traditions. To open my heart to a new kind of love. I am scared. I am excited. I am both. Life is both. Honey, we all got problems…and we all got blessings. We feel lost…and we’re where we are meant to be. We feel alone…and we have each other. We’re imperfect…and we’re enough as we are. We are both.” Words via @katekole | ‘Life Is Both.’ Image via @pexelsphotos #realtalk #reallife #honesty #imperfect #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged

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